SURVEY: The Pros & Cons of Your Next Hand Shake:

The Japanese bow, the Chinese nod, the Greeks will slap you on the back, and French and Italians kiss on both cheeks. The
Greetings Around the World website has an extensive and interesting list of greetings in different cultures.
So why, with a world of greeting options available, is the "Western" hand-shake one of most widely accepted forms of greeting? Christy Lamagna, Chief Strategist, Strategic Meetings & Events says, “I get so much from a person when I shake their hand. Do they look me in the eye? Is it a firm hand-shake? Is it a crushing handshake? Too aggressive? Too soft? Hands trembling or cold?" Beth Cooper-Zobott of Equity Residential says, “I value a good strong handshake with good eye contact. I always note the way people shake hands - even when I'm just watching it on television.”
As many know, the hand-shake is an
archaic gesture, the origins of which go way back in ancient times, when people needed to confirm they did not have a weapon in their hand.
Unbeknownst to the ancients, they DID have a weapon in their hands. Just as we do today.
When I was in Hong Kong a few years ago, I noticed people, such as taxi drivers, still wearing masks, and no one extended a hand to shake. But while
SARS and the Bird Flu changed things in Asia, the hand-shake is still strong in the U.S. and elsewhere.
Why? I have seen people cough into their hands, then turn around and extend their right hand for a shake. People also handle dirty money, raw food with salmonella, animals and many other bacteria-laden objects. I see people shake hands, then turn around and eat finger food, transferring any bacteria directly into their mouths.
There are many
articles on the Internet that suggest that many men and women do not wash their hands after using the rest room. (The CDC has a
tutorial page on how to wash your hands). The hands have no natural antibacterial capabilities so they just pick up more and more bacteria every time they touch something.
The possibility of contagion is the major reason to forgo the handshake, but there are others. For instance, many people do not even know how to shake a hand properly. A limp, clammy hand is like shaking a wet fish:
Even worse are the people who think a firm grip means practically breaking the bones in one’s hand. I had to stop wearing a ring on my right hand because of painful grips.
Those who advocate hand-shaking often cite its universal appeal. But as we see from
Greetings Around the World, that's hardly true. In fact, within the U.S. itself are many cultures with hand-shaking taboos.
Can there be a middle ground? I propose a fist bump. It is friendly, provides contact and makes people smile. When people extend their hand to me, I extend my fist. It is good for a laugh, if nothing else.
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